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I started maladaptive daydreaming in school, although at that time I didn’t know what it was. For me, it began as a form of escapism. Life felt stressful, confusing, and overwhelming, so my mind created an alternate world where everything felt easier and more rewarding.

A few years later, around 3 to 4 years into it, I realised something wasn’t right. I could feel that I wasn’t fully present in my real life, but I didn’t have the language to explain what was happening. I thought my problem was simply “not being able to stay in the present moment.”

Another few years passed, and things became clearer but worse. Despite being good at studies and naturally intelligent, I couldn’t understand why I was failing to focus in real life, why I wasn’t achieving anything meaningful, and why my progress felt stuck. I didn’t know it was maladaptive daydreaming, I only knew that I was fantasizing constantly and “living” achievements in my mind instead of the real world. My brain was rewarding me as if I had already achieved those things, so the motivation to act in real life kept decreasing.

I tried everything, reading countless books, practising meditation consistently for more than a year, and forcing myself to “be present.” Meditation did help, but only temporarily. If you meditate for just 5–10 minutes and then spend the rest of the day daydreaming and disconnecting from reality, the effects disappear quickly. It’s like charging a phone: the more your attention drifts, the faster you lose that meditative “charge.” After 2–3 hours, the presence you built through meditation fades if you slip back into unconscious habits.

After almost 12 years of struggling, researching, and trying to understand myself, I finally discovered the truth: I was suffering from maladaptive daydreaming. Naming it changed everything. Once I knew what the problem was, I also knew it could be fixed.

It took me only a few weeks to reduce it by 50–70%, but the results depend entirely on how seriously you commit to the process. Some people may reduce their daydreaming by 20–30% in the first week, while others may experience a 90% drop. The key is consistency. You have to consciously work on it for at least 2–3 months, long enough for your unconscious mind to adopt these new patterns automatically. After that, relapses become rare and much weaker.

When I finally overcame it, something awakened in me. I felt a deep urge to help others, especially teenagers, so they don’t spend years like I did figuring this out on their own. I want people to fix this early, so they can use their time, energy, and opportunities more powerfully.

But even if you’re older, even if you’re like me, don’t worry. You can still get your life back on track. Better late than never. And once you break free, you’ll realise that real life has far more to offer than any fantasy you could create.

Breaking the Cycle: Replacing Maladaptive Daydreaming With Productive Thinking Habits

My methods

EXPERIENCE

Identify patterns

Understand when, why, and how your unhelpful habits show up.

Break triggers

Remove or interrupt the cues that start the unwanted behaviour.

Replace loops

Swap old automatic responses with healthier, intentional actions.

Build new habits

Create consistent routines that support the life you want.

Maintain progress

Use tracking and systems to stay steady and prevent relapse.

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